The racial order of societies

Sex and the Indian Psyche : The history project.

I have often wondered about the great Indian social taboo. No one ever talks much about sex. It just isnt a done thing. Girls dont discuss sex with their girlfriends, guys (at least the guys i hang out with..maybe they are all virgins) dont like talking about sex..and if a girl loses her virginity..its a huge deal. I dont know if Indians are

I dont know if I am only talking about my point of view based on my limited interactions, but the Indians I have interacted with have all been loathe to talk about sex.

there is this whole puritanical streak that doesnt allow us to talk about sex. Screw the kamasutra, its only popular in the west. Like yoga and mysticism, saints and such. In everyday society, we seldom see instance in the public domain, be it tv shows, media columns, where wives discuss sex with husbands..People hardly sleep around !

A comedian once joked, that when Indians do foreplay, they go straight for the tits and bite them. Thats about how horny we all are. The movies that show "bold" kissing scenes today, have heroines whose careers are more or less defined uni dimensionally as sex dolls. I believe its more an outcome of Indias skewed male demographics and male dominant culture that resulted in a spate of these new sex based movies.

What i hate the most is the absolute taboo associated with it. Even in Singapore, this group of Indians politely believe that all the boyfriends and girlfriends do is occasionally make out in the privacy of bedrooms.

Women in India are strongly labelled by the madonna whore complex..I wish we could be more understanding..it is sad socially, that we do not have free sex in our society. We proudly believe in the Asian Family way..but if the foundation of that family is compromise..we are doomed to a fatalistic society..I believe free sex is a vehicle towards liberalism, and that open minds lead to intellectual progress..

Many friends of mine say, look at these westerners, they all get divorced so often..I cant help but feel , divorce may be a good thing at times..marriage neednt be the be all and end all of a society..a marriage has to provide personal fulfilment, and if divorce can provide that on a different plane..and being single satisfies other needs..so be it ! why do have to do things a particular way simply because generations did it that way ?

I wish people were open about sex..sexual liberation frees the mind. Sex is a joyous act of love, why is everyone in India so ashamed of it ? ? What is fundamentally wrong with a one night stand ? What does the pride of virginity carry for a woman today ? Shouldnt other things matter more than who fucked her ? Isnt pride in virginity an arcane objectification of women ?

I, with my cable tv puberty , feel this way. I wonder how many other Indians feel the same way.

I wonder how many Indians remain virgins till they are married. I exhort all of you to comment, with your views. Whether you disagree or agree, I wish people would talk more about sex. Forget the fact that we have the worlds second largest AIDS population. Thats only one of the many symptoms of the sexual taboo that grips our society. I am more concerned about the deeper more fundamental impact on the nature of Indian Society. Indians live in extremes, they either have very closed minds, or are super liberal about life. I urge anyone who reads this to promptly put up a comment, stating whether they lost their virginity, how many times they did..and state their sexual history. I hope the anonymity proves encouraging.

Please comment with details of your sexual history, and your views on it..Agree or vehemently disagree with me, but please , talk about it.

Thanks,

tragicomix

angst ridden sunrises

why doesnt anyone read my blog ? how do i get a blog popular ? wish i knew..never been too popular myself..my blog is a wishing wand trying to wish away my loneliness..women come and women go..i wish they would soothe my soul instead of flaming it in bursts of passion.